Cheaters Caught Using Cell Phones; Chat Cheating dating is Key

These days in the world of technology, there are so many new methods of cheating on your significant other it boggles the mind. The Internet has brought right into our very homes the ability to cheat on our mates; maybe when they are even in the same room with us. More likely they are in the house in a different room; but not necessarily!

This is all such common knowledge as well as common occurrence, using venues like chat programs, IRC, MIRC, web-cam sites, dating site, email...etc....the list is so long. So I am bring up cell phone cheating because it has also become very common and is perhaps less thought of.

Does your significant other have a cell phone? Probably. Most people do these days. But does their cell phone bill come to your home (normal) or does it go to a post office box; the office; is it pre-paid? These can and often ARE all signs that your mate is up to hiding something.

Does a phone number you don't recognize begin to appear frequently throughout the working day and/or during times that he or she is out "working late" or on weekends?

Before you shell out any money to find out the real truth, here are a few things you can do on your own to investigate:

#1 - Do an Internet "reverse search" of the phone number and see what comes up. You may likely get an *old* listing but you don't know. Please do NOT pay one of those 12$ to 14$ sites anything - they are ALL scams and give you Nothing but the name of the phone carrier! If you read the "fine print", it generally tells you that but most people don't and just lose their money for nothing.

#2 - You can go to a pay phone and phone the number to see who answers. *If* someone answers; pretend you are a telemarketer or the like. Ask if they are happy with their current phone service and would they like to switch to *XYZ* provider? Try to get them to talk with you, even a bit. If someone answers, be sure to ask for the Mrs. or Mr. of the house; especially if a child answers the phone.

If you get an answering machine, they can also sometimes yield clues.

#3 - If you phone the number from home, be Certain to dial *67 first so that your name and/or phone number are blocked. With caller ID you don't want to be caught calling so using a pay phone allows the number not to be identified.

#4 - If you are very nervous about doing any of this, ask your closest trusted friend for a hand. When you make the call you can always hang up when someone answers (but this will give you Very limited information about this person unless the call goes to a business. If it does go to a business, they generally say what the business is. You (or your friend) can then become Really creative with questions and the like.

#5 - Again, using the *67 feature or a payphone, you can pretend you have dialed the wrong number; ask for "Lisa" or "Bob" and hope that the person who answers will give something up - say something like "No, this is ________ and________ ". It happens all the time when people are caught off guard. After they hang up, they think well, that was dumb, but they have already said what they've said!

Not finding a phone trail doesn't mean he or she isn't making calls since he or she might be using those temporary pre-paid calling cards that you can buy almost anywhere or a tracfone and that leaves no trace.

Fortunately, if you need it, there is a reliable company that will help you to reverse ANY phone number in the USA - Canada - The UK - Actually in ANY country.

A General Cheater Catcher Check List--What do you Look for?

Check any Rolodex, calendars or day planners you can find. If your significant other has more than a couple casual buddies, you might luck out and find a birthday or specific date you are unaware of noted and, if you are lucky you may even find a name, another phone number, a work phone number, pager number, email address, cell phone number, even other personal data can be found listed among *business contacts*.

If your significant other (your "SO*) is evasive about little things, big things; basically everything or they simply doesn't want to have a conversation with you, this is a big clue. Possibly because they are having a difficult time remembering what you know and what you don't know about the activities in their lives.

You are both visiting with friends when you catch a story of something that recently (or fairly recently) happened in a recreational setting or in a location that you've never been and you weren't aware that he or she'd visited either. Big tipoff is when they just spilled information that they didn't want you to know.

You notice that one of your friends and your *SO* seem to be talking a lot more thaqn *usual* and/or they are calling your house to get advice or something equally lame. This can meanlong phone calls in low tones or in a separate room from where you are at. You notice they are smiling at each other or quite often and particularly when they think no one is watching. Maybe there's an occasion to hug and they seem to hug a little longer and more enthusiastically than you'd like.

Your *SO* and this other *person* always seem to be unavailable at the same time. This is another clue among clues.

They say they are working late but when you call the office, you get voicemail and when they finally do arrive home, they say the phone system isn't working at the office or has some other lame excuse for not calling you back or answering in the first place. What's important here is to be able to read their excuse -- Do they sound defiant or defensive about it?

They don't want you to visit them at work. If they have convinced a co-worker or business associate that your relationship is over, they certainly don't want you showing up looking like their loving mate.

How many times are you going to swallow the flat tire type excuses?

How emotionally involved are the two of you? Does your *SO* seem more "distant" and/or "uninterested"? Maybe they have always been this way, but if this is new behavior, it may be an indication someone else has their attention.

They used to remember romantic holidays with a card or a gift or a romantic dinner out just for the two of you. Not lately?

If you look through the wallet or purse, are they still carrying photos of you and the kids or are those family reminders missing? In the office, are the family photos still on the desk? -- particularly those of you and kids?

Have you found a post office box key that you didn't know *you* had? Perhaps the regular bills and general correspondence still come to your regular mailing address, but cheaters need to hide credit card charges and other bills and correspondence that would clue you to an affair. Do they have an unfamiliar key on their keyring? Do you know what it opens? Is there any legitimate reason for them to be receiving mail that you can't read?

Carrying around condoms and the two of you don't use them is a great clue and even if you both DO use them together here is a great way to find out if they are being used with *you*. First off, never mention you have found them, then; put a small permanent marker mark on the wrapper (this works especially well if one or two are found in a wallet, purse,luggage or glove compartment) and check for it when you can. If the mark disappears, you're looking at a new condom -- so what happened to the other one?

I know this is a very long list -- and trust me -- in my line of work, I could make it Far far longer! But it's a start for you.

There are also a few more hubs I have written here about this sort of thing which can be found here and here and here. Some are for protection from scams; others general info.

Other Things You Can To Do:

• Keep an up-to-date detailed journal of your *SO*'s activities. Journal any/all discrepancies in your *SO*'s stories.
• Determine any patterns to your *SO*'s extra times away from home.
• Record times and dates of all phone calls that are hang-ups, wrong numbers or unfamiliar.
• Check pockets, luggage, briefcases etc... for receipts and clues.
• If your *SO* travels, call back an hour after the "night-dear" call home.
• Smell your spouse's clothing.
• Check the mileage on your vehicle(s) before and after trips.
• Show up unexpectedly at the office for lunch.
• Say you'll be out late when you will be home early or on time.
• Hire a private detective to follow them. (It's Not nearly as costly as you might think. $300.00 can get you a LOT of pictures!)
• Act as if you believe everything they say.
• Ask your *SO*'s friends casual questions about activities they've supposedly done together.
• Become unpredictable.

If your *SO* thinks you suspect them of cheating, they are apt to make fewer mistakes than if you play dumb. Don't confront them of cheating until you have enough evidence to prove it and you're ready to take action. Especially where there are children involved.

Also, If you who are reading this are the cheater, Please do not assume that your *SO* is cheating on you!That is a tendency I have seen far too often and guilt based ~~~The cheater will often accuse you of it anyway.

           After you have read this, if you have not already, PLEASE take the time to go back to the top and take the quiz.  I would truly appreciate it if you did the poll too.  Thank you and I hope this never happens to YOU!!

Best Regards, Melanie

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